The Things No One Talks About When Planning a Wedding

Details

Take some time to think about what you want in your details. Ladies, I know you’ve got it all figured out already, but guys, this pertains to you; tell your photographer if any of your accessories have sentimental value, like the watch you're wearing is your grandfather's or something similar. Once you have them, keep them all together in one box or bag the day of so you can easily hand them off to your photo and video team to capture, instead of looking all over for your tie clip or your shoes.

Transportation

When I mentioned this to my wife, she looked at me and said, "I would've never thought of that." So I knew it had to be at the top of this post. Don't neglect transportation for you and the bridal party from where you're getting ready to the ceremony/reception. Too many people have thought to rely on Uber to do this for them, and they always end up being late because of cancellation. Trust me, spend the money and book a car service, limo, trolley, anything that is reliable. In my theme of dual purpose, we booked a trolley so we could take photos both in and outside of it. It added another dimension to our photos we otherwise wouldn't have. And when it did in fact rain, we were kept dry and able to adapt where we took photos because we had the trolley booked the whole time.

Food While Getting Ready

I am not saying spend a ton of money on food while you get ready, but it's a long day. Make sure you have some sort of food to start your day. Don't be like my groomsman who left at 7:30 because he didn't eat all day and was way too drunk. We had a bunch of chicken nuggets because they were easy to pop in your mouth and wouldn't make a mess. My wife and her bridesmaids had bagels and fruit so they could keep their energy up until dinner later and made sure to finish eating before they finished with makeup. Whatever you choose, just have it be simple and easy to eat.

Trends

Just because something is trending, doesn't mean you need to do it. Don't get me wrong, some are fun! By all means, if you want to do one, go for it. But that shiny new trend isn't always worth the headache it took to make happen and might make you cringe 15 years from now. Staples and classics earned their reputations for a reason.

Money

If there is anything in this guide that I want you to listen to it’s this: don't go into debt just to have a wedding. I understand, just the phrasing "just to have a wedding" might be upsetting to some. But you need to look at the big picture in the context of yourself, and your financial health, and not at what other weddings are like. We talk so much about the wedding, but never about the marriage itself. Marriage is about communication, and your wedding is just the beginning. It's the first test of if the two of you can sit down, make decisions, and talk everything through. And guys, I'm talking to you. Don't just say yes to everything and be non-existent through the process. You asked your partner to marry you, and you set this whole planning process in motion, so put some effort in. There are checks and balances in government, and the two of you need to check and balance each other as you pitch ideas and make decisions.